Yesterday was a very long day...It was the 3rd anniversay of the death of my friend's son, whom I loved to pieces. She found him in his bed..he was 15. I had just left her house and I was the first person she called before the paramedics. I raced back to the house and I will never forget seeing that beautiful little boy in his bed...dead. I wear one of those popular rubber bracelets that she had made after his death...it says "Sober or Die"...I think that says it all. I never leave my house without this bracelet and I never will. Trevor struggled with his addiction, but we thought he had been sober for 10 months. WE were lulled into believing the best, but should have suspected the worst. He tried hard to stay sober, but in the end, he sucummed to peer pressure. "Friends" that he wasn't supposed to see, caught him in a moment of weakness the night before he died. He was looking for his sponsor and found these "friends" instead. One of the young men had stolen liquid morphine from his dying grandfather...they taunted Trevor until he drank it. Liquid Morphine will not get you high...it is time released and lethal. Even prescription drugs can kill kids that have no idea what they are taking. Knowing that his parents would be very upset with him, he went home and told them his stomach was upset, being the dutiful mother that she was, my friend tried to settle his stomach down with Pepto Bismol, when all he really needed to save his life was a shot of Narcaine.
The above happened on the 10th of August. On the 11th, my friend and I were scheduled to have lunch for our Birthday's..mine the 3rd and hers the 12th. I picked her up...the last thing she did before leaving the house, was check on Trevor...he appeared to be sleeping...we had no idea he was really dying. We had our birthday lunch, came home and life changed greatly after that. Trevor was an only child and the only one my friend will ever have. If I could change that day, I would in a heart beat....so that my friend could have the son back she loved so much.
Life is short and full of heartaches...tell those you love...everyday that you love them. We never know when it will be the last time that we get a chance to do it.